1. Mental Health Is All About WHO You Know

    Recently it seems like every other commercial on T.V. is for some sort of DNA testing service or ancestry discovery.  For a few dollars you can discover if you are Italian or Icelandic or whether have a lineage of lederhosen.  The trend seems to hold several practical purposes like discovering if your genetic code carries any indicators of health hazards that may hinder you or tapping your famil…Read More

  2. How to Fight WITH Your Spouse, Part 2: Know Your Target

    The previous article focused on the inevitability of marital conflict.  I proposed that not being surprised by spousal conflict might make the pain of the argument sting less.  Just to be clear, I don’t advocate for or expect constant bickering in spousal relationships.  In light of taking the shock out of arguing with our partner, this article proposes that since disagreement is inevitable,…Read More

  3. How to Fight With Your Spouse, Part 1: Expect Conflict

    How do you fight with your spouse?  For those of us who have a lifetime partner, the art of arguing is a valuable skill.  This brief article, and the one following, are going to propose that it is possible to navigate marital conflict.  I can’t claim to have the step by step guide to arguing, but one thing I have learned is that it is better to fight WITH your spouse than AGAINST them.  I do…Read More

  4. Of Barrenness and Burning: When Life Seems Bleak

    As far as the forest is concerned, the season has switched from fall to winter.  The branches are bare, and the forest floor is evidence of a year gone by.  The other day, as I arrived at the trail I like to run on (first time since fall was in full foliage), I was surprised to see a dozen firefighters spread out in the woods.  Surrounding these yellow uniformed warriors, like little monsters u…Read More

  5. Mental Health and Running

    It’s a chilly Oregon spring day, and an 11-year-old boy is about run his first competitive race, in all his 6th grade glory; the 800-meter-dash. The short shorts and tank-top barely cover his slight frame which is subsequently covered in goose-bumps caused by chill and nerves. Through the crackly bull-horn comes, “Runners take your mark…” BANG! As his blonde mop bounces on his head, what h…Read More

  6. 3 Tips for a Healthy Marriage Through RESPECT

    It is commonly known that the Grammy winning song “Respect”, as recorded by the legendary Aretha Franklin (Atlantic, 1967) is a variation of a song originally written and recorded by the blues and soul pioneer Otis Redding (Volt, 1965). Redding wrote and recorded the song “Respect” as an anthem for men; a desperate plea from a man to a woman to fulfill a felt need. Aretha’s version flipp…Read More

  7. Marriage and Intimacy

    Have you ever been to Santa Monica or San Francisco, CA? I grew up on the west coast and used to love going to the piers built from these great beaches and bays. Piers are built out into the water for people to enjoy a view of the coast-line and an up-close experience of the surf without being tossed around by the waves. The pier is supported by pylons which are built deep into the ground beneath …Read More

  8. HOPE – A Four Letter Word

    While out on a run recently – tunes blasting in my ear, my aging muscles screaming for me to stop, the heat and humidity of the Chicago summer draining the life from me one drop of sweat at a time – I heard a phrase through the earbuds, as if sent straight from the running gods, that resonated with me distracting me from the exhaustion for a moment… “HOPE is a four-letter word” I can’t…Read More

  9. Is “Mental Health” an Oxymoron?

    Does mental health sometimes seem oxymoronic? Think about it, who doesn’t have mental health days?  Don’t we all have anxious thoughts, depressed feelings, confused direction… like all the time?  The answer, far from moronic, is duh.  Is it possible to achieve a healthy mind?  That would be awfully nice. Are we not people who live in clearly confusing times?  We are called to be the bes…Read More