1. Vulnerability

    Whew…that is a scary word!  Who wants to be vulnerable?  I don’t think many of us would elect ourselves to be vulnerable.  Lets look more into this world of vulnerability. The definition of vulnerable is “Susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.  (Of a person) in need of special care, support, or protection because of age, disability, or risk of abuse or neglect.” Okay, I…Read More

  2. Waiting…

    What do you do when you don’t know what to do? This question might be a bit of an odd question to some people.  To others you might be dying for an answer to that question.  Unfortunately I do not have the exact answer to this question.  There have been countless times in my life when I have been at an utter loss of what to do.  I felt stuck.  I felt hopeless.  I felt confused.  I felt de…Read More

  3. HOPE – A Four Letter Word

    While out on a run recently – tunes blasting in my ear, my aging muscles screaming for me to stop, the heat and humidity of the Chicago summer draining the life from me one drop of sweat at a time – I heard a phrase through the earbuds, as if sent straight from the running gods, that resonated with me distracting me from the exhaustion for a moment… “HOPE is a four-letter word” I can’t…Read More

  4. Is “Mental Health” an Oxymoron?

    Does mental health sometimes seem oxymoronic? Think about it, who doesn’t have mental health days?  Don’t we all have anxious thoughts, depressed feelings, confused direction… like all the time?  The answer, far from moronic, is duh.  Is it possible to achieve a healthy mind?  That would be awfully nice. Are we not people who live in clearly confusing times?  We are called to be the bes…Read More

  5. How Do You Calm Down When Anxiety Enters Your Life?

    We all have our own feelings about anxiety. Anxiety presents itself in everyone’s life differently. How does anxiety present itself in your life? Has your anxiety ever been so high that you just can't take it anymore? I have found that progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) has helped people calm down when their anxiety has taken over their body. I personally like to combine imagery and PMR. Here i…Read More

  6. When There Is Nothing To Say

    Have you ever had a moment when you were at a loss for words?  Maybe your best friend just told you that her mother died.  Maybe you just found out you lost your job.  Maybe your child comes to you pouring their heart out.  Sometimes moments happen in our lives and we just don’t know what to do or say.  I’m here to tell you, that’s okay.  Sometimes there are just no words.  It’s oka…Read More

  7. When The Pain Is Too Great

    What do you do when the pain is too much to handle?  When people come into counseling that are hurting, their first question is, “How do I release this pain I am feeling?”  They are looking to me to help them feel better.  Unfortunately I cannot take their pain away, even though I wish I could.  Some people release their pain in very unhealthy ways; I try and give them healthy alternatives…Read More

  8. Boundaries, Are You Setting Them?

    Quotes are powerful.  Sometimes I will read a quote and I feel as though that quote was written exactly for me.  In this blog post I am going to list a few of my favorite quotes that have something to do with boundaries.  Boundaries are a very hard thing to navigate.  Most of us have struggled with boundaries at one point in our lives or another.  Why should we set boundaries with ourselves, …Read More

  9. But What If They Don’t Like Me?

    As a society we are so afraid of what others will think of us.  Granted, I know there are a few people out there who really could care less of what others think of them.  They are who they are and they are proud of it.  As for the rest of us, we may struggle a little in that area.  It’s not exactly that we are not proud of ourselves; we just get caught up in what society thinks.  There is n…Read More

  10. Physical Intimacy

    When was the last time you made love? I don’t mean when you last had sex; anyone can have sex. But when did you and your husband or wife really connect at the level where your souls met? The beauty of love is found in that deep place where we meet soul to soul, heart to heart, seeing each other in the vulnerability of openness – defenses down and masks off. “I see you,” was the beautiful p…Read More