How to Fight WITH Your Spouse, Part 2: Know Your Target

The previous article focused on the inevitability of marital conflict.  I proposed that not being surprised by spousal conflict might make the pain of the argument sting less.  Just to be clear, I don’t advocate for or expect constant bickering in spousal relationships.  In light of taking the shock out of arguing with our partner,…

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How to Fight With Your Spouse, Part 1: Expect Conflict

How do you fight with your spouse?  For those of us who have a lifetime partner, the art of arguing is a valuable skill.  This brief article, and the one following, are going to propose that it is possible to navigate marital conflict.  I can’t claim to have the step by step guide to arguing,…

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How Can I Find A Spouse, Part 5

The Golden Key To A Woman’s Heart After a long delay that included a vacation with my darling wife for our sixth anniversary, it’s time for another installment. Last time I spoke directly to women about finding a true man of love and honor; a true gentleman. I was speaking to men as well, because…

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How Can I Find A Spouse, Part 4

We long for a spouse who answers the needs and cry of our soul. We’ve talked about finding someone who fills the spaces in your heart and soul and personality; a person who is your match and one who makes you feel alive, with whom you have chemistry and feel the passion of life. All…

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How Can I Find A Spouse. Pt 3

Last time we talked about knowing yourself and then looking for someone who meets you in who you are, one who is a match for your personality, emotions, likes and dislikes – who will be the true companion to all of you. The belief that opposites attract is out there, but research has shown that…

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3 Tips for a Healthy Marriage Through RESPECT

It is commonly known that the Grammy winning song “Respect”, as recorded by the legendary Aretha Franklin (Atlantic, 1967) is a variation of a song originally written and recorded by the blues and soul pioneer Otis Redding (Volt, 1965). Redding wrote and recorded the song “Respect” as an anthem for men; a desperate plea from…

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How Can I Find a Spouse? Pt 2

Before you look for a husband or wife there is one absolutely essential thing you need to do – you need to know yourself. When we know ourselves well we will know who and what we need to complete us. Finding that person you dream of begins here. So ask yourself some questions like, What…

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Finding a Spouse, Pt 1

How can I find a good spouse safely? We hear this question so often in counseling. Marriage counseling is a large part of our practice, so we see the effects of not asking this question, or not answering it well. Singles who have delayed marrying are now very worried that the field of eligible men…

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Marriage and Intimacy

Have you ever been to Santa Monica or San Francisco, CA? I grew up on the west coast and used to love going to the piers built from these great beaches and bays. Piers are built out into the water for people to enjoy a view of the coast-line and an up-close experience of the…

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